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I just realized something, when I was younger I had so called "crushes" on celebrities. I use to think I was not Aromantic because of that but now looking back, they were not actual crushes: 1st off When they looked normal or not perfect/hot in my view I did not feel anything and would skip to pictures where they where hot. 2nd off: I did not bother to find out anything about them-I did not bother to really do any research about them. 3rd If I did have a "crush" its never been labeled my kind of crush was feeling some heat in my chest and maybe some heat in my brain, It was a very intense aesthetic attraction which I did not realize at the time.4th When you have a crush you want to hang out with them, dream about marrying them, think about them. Even though it was celebrity crush which means its a little different I never thought about them besides when I was looking at their perfect pictures, what I felt back felt back then (like I said before) was a intense aesthetic crush. 5 when you have a romantic crush you like the person in a romantic way-you like them as a whole, I for one just liked how they looked. 6th Back then I was facing a lot of internal pressure to be LGBTQ+. My Mom came out as Trans and so for some reason I wanted to be queer too, so a lot of internalized pressure made me want to crush on girls. 7th I do think I did feel slight attraction just not in a romantic/sexual/friend kind of way I don't know a word for it and I don't think one exists for what I'm trying to say. 8th my crushes often felt internally forced, when I was 12 their was this one girl, and I wanted to have a crush so badly that I felt butterflies, but now looking back I don't think I ever felt romantic attraction. 9th My parents never where lovey dovey and I blame myself for that because when I was about 4-6 I told them to not kiss in front of me because it was gross. I don't know if it was me (It might have been somewhat my fault but if their love had been strong it would have been able to break a silly kids order not to kiss) Anyway they never truly loved each other and I started reading romance books, and some other stuff. The idea of love like that-soul mates and stuff, I wanted it so badly, and not having two parents that loved each other made me want it for myself. 10 I was in love. I was in love with the idea of love, I wanted the perfect kind of love and that's why I only crushed on images of people when they looked perfect and hot.
Thanks for reading my silly little essay lol I just needed to wrote it to truly figure out how I felt, I may have felt romantic attraction in my life but it might have just been faint. <3
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I use to say it Like A-romantic until one of my friends asked me if Aro-mantic so now I say it like arrow lol
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I just wanted to ask the first time people ever got put into a heavily romantic situation, lol. <3 (I bet this has been asked before; I just wanted to ask again, lol) My first time I ever got into a heavily romantic situation was when I was on a field trip (I was 12–15 years old) . We went to a museum and I had a lot of fun, I was put into a group with 4 other boys, and 2 teachers (their was about 30 kids). Anyway it wasn't until the lunch break one of the boys made a move. Now I'm gonna be honest here, I don't want to be rude but he was uhh not handsome in the least bit, but he was going though puberty and nobody looks good while in the middle of puberty. anyway I decided not to judge how he looked and I was nice to him but, his personality was awful. He only talked about superheros and about this Netflix show did not let me get a word in edgewise without interrupting me kept calling me pretty (I hate it when people call me that-like my looks are the only thing that matters). Anyways after the break was over he would NOT take a hint kept sticking right by me, and it was making me feel very uneasy and I did not like at one point I was so embarrassed and wanted out of it I said I was a lesbian did he take a hint no. He also called me out on blushing (I was very embarrassed) anyway we went to a gift shop and he kept trying to buy me a plushie, I said no I did not want him to buy anything for me. Well he wanted to buy me jewelry I said no and then he snapped "Can't you just let me buy something for you jeez." and I hate it when people snap at me so I was really uneasy to the point of wanting to flee. not to mention I had more money then him and he wanted to go take photos at a photobooth (He ruined one picture I was taking of some wolf sculptures-he stood in the middle of it and made funny faces-still urks me) He finally decided to buy me a card (The handwriting my god-it wasn't even readable) after the gift shop thing I stayed glued to one of the teachers and started ignoring him, he seemed to be more interested in his friends at that point plus not wanting to be near the teacher-but anytime I strayed from that teacher he would start talking and talking. Finally we get to the bus and I sit right behind the teachers-he was clearly torn between me and his friends but decided to be by his friends in the back. (Plus teachers have the gossip, and one asked me about which tattoo she should get-that was the most relived I ever felt in my life looking back) One funny detail looking back was that I was confused why no one was hot, so I was just looking around to see if their was anyone hot that I could crush on lol. Also pardon any spelling, or any kind of errors I wrote this on my tablet. <3 -
I thought I had a crush today but I did not lol. Anyway there was this one woman who was walking, and I was biking around to test out my new bike. Anyway, she and I have some bad blood; we just didn't start off on a good foot. Anyway, I saw her and I started speeding up so she would not see me (gosh, I'm such a genius, lol). Anyway, my heart was pounding, and I felt heat in my chest (it was kind of painful—not like ow I'm in pain, so kinda a fast throb kind of painful feeling), so I thought I had a crush. I pictured kissing her, and I just felt disgusted. Doing anything romantic with her disgusted me, so I was confused. Maybe I was orchidromantic? So I looked up why my heart speed up like that, and I found out: it's likely due to a physiological response to excitement or nervousness, not necessarily indicating romantic interest; this could be caused by factors like finding someone visually appealing, feeling a sudden rush of adrenaline, or simply being in a new social situation, even without a romantic spark.. The feeling is actually kinda painful now looking back—it wasn't romantic attraction.So you can feel nervous and you heart speed up around someone-just doesn't mean you have a crush on them lol-I wish someone had told me sooner lol.
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I don't know but maybe it could be? For me personally autistic and having ADHD never had anything to do with being Aromantic though maybe it could connect? It's slightly iffy to me though if maybe their was some hard proof of it then maybe but for now I'm open to it but not going to fully believe it if you know what I mean lol. That's just my thoughts though. <3
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The aromantic flag and "dreamsexuality"
RavenIsWerid replied to ilse's topic in Visibility, Articles, and Meetups
I have don't like Dreamromantics/sexual/gender's (but I mean, it's their life to live, not mine) but mostly I hate how people are getting the two mixed up and ruining the little reputation we Aromatics have. Plus, not bothering to do any research (I do wish the Dream sexual flag looked different from the Aromantic flag; it looks like a rip-off to be honest, but then again, a ton of flags look like each other, so maybe not). That's my personal opinion on it. I mean, Dream sexual is weird, but at least it's not like bread sexual (I'm not joking, there is actually a thing called bread sexual, bread romantic, and bread gender; it feels like mockery to the whole LGBTQ+ community-just like dreamsexual). That's just my thoughts on it though. <3 -
Does anyone else wish they were a different romantic orientation simply because they like the flag lol? (I would never lie or pretend I was I just really like the omniromantic flag-the colors are so pleasing to my eyes, unlike for example the Grayromantic flag-(I have nothing against Greyromantic or their flag I just don't like the flag-its not pleasing to look at for me lol)
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Sometimes I feel like I'm lying that I'm not aro, and that I'm lying to myself and everyone else, and then I start crying about the fact that I can't fall in love, and then I worry that I didn't save my drawing. My brain can go from full panic attack to worrying about silly things. My brain honestly confuses me. Also sadly I did not save my drawing so I have to start over lol.
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I think I'm starting to accept myself as aro. Before I always refused to even think it because I wanted that connection with someone to feel love, and so when my brain realized I wasn't feeling what I wanted my whole life it started to try to fake that feeling, I was having "crushes" so often I was feeling mentally exhausted and it was putting a strain on me from having "crushes" so often. I guess I just wanted that feeling like the books and movies and songs, everyone talks about how wonderful love is and what a wonderful thing it is so I wanted to feel it to the point I was breaking myself, and ignoring who I actually was. I still love romance and everything that comes with it but if I never feel it that's okay because I do feel love: I feel love for my family, and my pets. That's all the love I need right now, and I'm learning to accept that love comes in so many more forms then what I have been taught all my life. <3
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I'm for sure somewhat lower on The aromantic spectrum due to the fact I do sometimes feel romantic attraction but it's faint. Honestly I'm just experimenting with labels until one fits lol
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Hi and welcome!
Sadly, it's easy to slip from opening up about the “green-stripe” / “fully aro” perspective to just hating and mocking romance and so effectively excluding those who feel it. Often this is caused by plenty of pent-up emotions and frustrations, so please don't take everything written here too seriously.
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So I have been taking a big look at all of my crushes before and seeing if they were real crushes or if not, and one thing I have noticed is that it matters mostly on looks. When I was younger I had a “crush” on Selena Gomez, Hayley Kiyoko and Demi Lovato. The strange thing is only in the pictures in which they looked so called “hot” I could look at a pic of Selena Gomez that's “hot” and have a “crush,” but look at a different pic of her not looking “hot,” and I would feel nothing, the same thing for all the other ones. Of course, when I was younger I did think about kissing them and squealing into my pillow, but looking back, I realized that it felt somewhat forced, like I wanted to be a normal teen girl and have a “dreamy crush.” I do think I have romantic attraction, but it's been very faint and not what most people call romantic attraction. I could also be watching a show, and then midway through it, I realized, Oh, wait, they are kinda hot. I should have a crush on them, but not before, or just have a natural crush. Likewise, I do often have crushes, but they're all what I consider hot or should be crushing on. If I ever feel romantic attraction, it is very faint. (Nothing like what I looked up—a crush should feel like-sweaty palms? Heart throbbing? All I feel is a slight "tug" if that makes sense but I can rarely feel it and its often to those that I pressure myself to like. Sometimes I do have “crushes” (I mean kind of?” I once had a bit of a crush on kallmekris (I think that's her username?) but it was for about 5 minutes, and that was the most I have ever felt. The next day I looked at the same pic and I felt...nothing? I looked at the same Selena Gomez, Hayley Kiyoko and Demi Lovato pics and I had a slight "crush" but only on certain pics and the ones on which they look perfect. I think what I want is like some kind of perfect romantic feeling but I never feel that (or if I do its faint) so my brain tries to make me think “That person is hot-you should like them.” and then I have the “tug” another example is some people I met in real life their was this one cute boy but he was just cute I didn't feel a actual crush if you know what I mean. I don't know what my romantic orientation is and it might change with time but who knows? Can anyone relate lol? Sorry for this ramble I just had to ask and get it off my chest. <3
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